Mother-Daughter Journaling With Mari L. McCarthy

Today I’m taking part in the WOW! Women on Writing tour for Mari L. McCarthy, the author of a new eBook called, Who Are You? How to Use Journaling to Know and Grow Your Life. A former business consultant, McCarthy now teaches others how to improve their lives through therapeutic journaling and uses journaling herself as a tool for business, for writing, and for life. Her new book focuses on revealing hidden fears (and how they hold you back), listening to your inner coach (that wiser voice inside), and finding out who you really are.

In this essay McCarthy created for Mother Daughter Book Club. com, she talks about the joy of sharing your journal with someone. Would you like a copy of her new eBook? Just leave a comment with your thoughts about journaling before midnight (PDT) Monday, September 26 and you’ll be entered to win one. Please note: the giveaway is closed. Congratulations to Amber on winning.

The Shared Journal – Mother-Daughter Adventures

By Mari L. McCarthy

You might think journaling is an entirely private matter, but that is not always the case. Some journals, like project or travel logs, are actually meant to be read by other people. Sometimes a journal is originally composed by several different people as a sort of team effort. So journal writing is not necessarily a solitary activity.

Consider the fun, therefore, of doing journaling in tandem with your daughter. You could share one notebook to express your thoughts on whatever topics you want. Some possibilities might be:

  • Life in general
  • Stuff I’m worried about
  • My thoughts about what I am currently reading
  • What I dreamed about last night
  • How I’m doing in my progress toward goals

… and, of course, about a zillion other possible subjects of interest.

It would be fun, don’t you think, to pick up that well-worn notebook and read what your daughter wrote last night when she came in from her date? And, as the daughter, wouldn’t it be interesting to read accounts of your mother’s dreams?

Here’s one way of structuring the practice.

  • Agree to try it. Look eye-to eye and be sure both parties are ready to give this journaling thing a go.
  • Agree on a place where you will keep the notebook. Be sure it is safe from any prying eyes.
  • Stick with the program for at least a couple of weeks no matter what. Write and read faithfully and as much as possible without judgment. If it seems awkward or difficult at first, keep working at it. Soon enough, you’ll be addicted!
  • Agree whether or not to discuss the writings out loud. If one party or another would rather not talk out loud about anything in the journal, this wish should be respected. In any event, avoid over-discussing the journal entries. Let the process remain a written, not a spoken one.
  • Assuming the process is as fascinating to you as I predict it will be, continue at your own pace. Find your own forms and rules. A mother-daughter journal shares the life of your mind and bonds the two of you closer than ever.

Now, be honest. If you have a relatively healthy relationship with your mother or daughter, is there any good reason not to share in this generously intimate way?

What are your ideas for mother-daughter journaling?

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Mari L. McCarthy

By Mari L. McCarthy – The Journaling Therapy Specialist, founder of Journaling for the Health of It™.  Please visit Mari’s blog at http://www.createwritenow.com/journal-writing-blog/. In Who Are You? How to Use Journaling Therapy to Know and Grow Your Life (http://www.createwritenow.com/journal-therapy-store#ecwid:category=1077033&mode=product&product=4674145), Mari presents a gentle process for self discovery through journaling. Mari’s latest publication is titled, Your Money Matters! Use Journal Writing Therapy to Get Financially Fit Now. See http://www.createwritenow.com/journal-therapy-store#ecwid:category=1077033&mode=product&product=5436679 for details.

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Book Review: Dot to Dot by Kit Bakke

Dot to Dot cover imageTwelve-year-old Dot is grieving from her mother’s sudden death when her Aunt Tab decides that the two of them need to travel from their home in Seattle to England. Dot would prefer to stay locked safely inside her home, but Aunt Tab believes she needs a change of location to help her focus on something other than her grief.

Dot soon discovers that England is not a random destination choice. It turns out her mother named her—Dorothy Mary Jane—after three well known literary women: Dorothy Wordsworth, Mary Wollstonecraft and Jane Austen. As she discovers more about each of these women, she works to find the strength she needs to carry on in a world without her mother.

Dot to Dot by Kit Bakke is the story of a girl who goes on a journey of distance that turns into a trip where she discovers a lot about herself as well as the people around her. As Dot learns more about each of the women she was named after, she finds out why her mother chose them as heroines. Her own reading of their works also gives her insight into her current situation.

Mother-daughter book clubs with girls aged 10 to 13 will be able to talk about many issues, including the nature of grief, finding hope amidst tragedy, and the extraordinary times that produced Dorothy, Mary and Jane.

The author provided me with a copy of this book for review.

Author Clare Havens Reflects on Mother-Son Book Clubs

In addition to being in a mother-daughter book club, Clare Havens is also contemplating starting a mother-son group with her 7-year-old son. Here she talks about her reasons for wanting to get this club off the ground and the challenges she expects to face doing so.

Havens A Bella Street Mystery cover imageis also the author of A Bella Street Mystery: Secret Formula, a “tween noir” novel that she describes as “a fun, suspenseful romp through Manhattan, tying in the worlds of haute couture and 1930s gangsters—think Humphrey Bogart meets Anna Wintour.”

Read on for her perspective on mother-son book clubs.

Starting a mother-son book club? Am I nuts?!

By Clare Havens

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Clare Havens

Call me crazy but I am seriously thinking about starting up a mother-son book club! Yes, we all hear so much about how boys don’t like to read and the image we have of a parent-child book club is one of mothers and daughters immaculately dressed sipping tea from china cups and saucers while they discuss Jane Austen doesn’t jibe with what we imagine when we think about boys. Gross out jokes. Cartoons. Snot. However, I have been reading recently about some brave souls who not only have started mother/parent-son book clubs but who positively LOVE them!

It seems to me that the key identifying factor of a son book club is the noise and energy level. Boys like to be active, we all know, and they often learn better while they are moving around. It makes sense to me to offer boys activities, related to the book at hand preferably, to occupy them while someone is talking about a certain book. There could be handouts where boys can draw maps showing locations of secret portals or enemy headquarters. There could be mask making or building with Lego bricks or plaster model painting…

There should be food and drink. Boys should be allowed to relax and eat—this isn’t another lesson, it is supposed to be fun! I guess the food could even relate to the book and making it could also be the activity—multitasking boys! Love the idea!

Books needn’t be the only things discussed. Why not comics? Graphic novels? Ebooks—these are much cheaper than paperbacks and many boys can download them onto a computer without buying a specific ereader. Movies could also be discussed, notably how they differ from the book. Boys could also be asked to cast movies for books which have no film version.

Give out the new book at the end of the meeting. No excuses that they couldn’t find the book before the next meeting!

One idea I really like which I read about on http://gettingkidsreading.blogspot.com is to give each person a piece of paper/fabric/bark or whatever on which they have to write the beginning of a story before the next meeting. At the next meeting they swap their piece with someone else and have to continue the story on the other side.

Some clubs have trivia quizzes about the book just read with prizes such as water balloons given for correct answers. At the end of the meeting the boys can go have a water balloon fight outside! The boys can set the quiz questions.

Why not start a simple free blog where club members can post photos, reviews, comments, questions, etc. in between meetings? This might appeal to the techno-savvy set. Tying in technology would appeal to many boys, in my opinion.

These are all ideas that would work well for mother-daughter clubs too but would work really well for many boys. Let’s not leave them out of the fun! I think boys enjoy reading more than they are often given credit for—they may often like reading in a different format to girls but they are often just as passionate about a book or a character. I think I may actually start a mother-son book club, I just have to go figure out how many boys throwing water balloons I can fit in my backyard!

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Book Review: Where the Mountain Meets the Moon by Grace Lin

Where the Mountain Meets the Moon cover imageMinli loves to listen to the stories her father tells her about the Old Man of the Moon and kingdoms far away. She works tirelessly next to her parents in the dirty fields near her small Chinese village, and the tales cheer her up. Minli’s mother believes that stories are a waste of time, that they only put fanciful ideas into Minli’s head, when she should be concentrating on bringing more food to the table. While Minli dreams of one day bringing prosperity to her village, Ma believes it can’t be done.

When Minli meets a magical fish who tells her how to find the Old Man of the Moon, she sets off on a journey to ask the wise man how her village can change its fortunes. Along the way she meets with many adventures, and she discovers that her father’s stories may not have been fanciful tales after all.

Where the Mountain Meets the Moon by Grace Lin is a story of belief, hope, and the desire to take action to change your life for the better. It’s also about friendship, love and wisdom. Lin weaves Minli’s story in with the old tales beautifully, and Minli’s journey unfolds gently as she travels farther from home. The accompanying illustrations enhance the story and bring it to life. I highly recommend it for mother-daughter book clubs with girls aged 9 to 14.

The publisher provided me with a copy of this book to review.

Book Review: Soul Taker by Celia Rees

Here’s a guest review by author Christina Hamlett.

Soultaker cover imageTitle: Soul Taker
Author: Celia Rees
Genre: YA
Publisher: Hodder Children’s Books, 2003
Reviewer: Christina Hamlett

Although the outcome of Celia Rees’ YA thriller Soul Taker won’t be a surprise to fans of television’s “Twilight Zone” and “Outer Limits,” it’s a gripping page-turner that speaks to the dangers inherent in not thinking one’s wishes all the way through. Her protagonist, Lewis, is an overweight teen who may as well be invisible for as little attention and kindness is ever paid to him at home and at school. It’s only natural, then, when a toy store owner named Viktor Ladslow befriends the lad and alludes to untapped potential that Lewis feels as if things have suddenly taken a bright turn in his dismally dark life. The more fervent the wish, however, the steeper the cost…and the harder to extricate onself from the bargain.

While the story itself is justifiably creepy, Rees has expertly crafted subtle parallelism to the real-life jeopardy of disenfranchised teens and tweens who lack positive adult role models to guide them. Like Lewis, they unwittingly make themselves susceptible to the predatory advances of “friends” like Ladslow and—even when confronted with evidence of wrongdoing—are often too willing to compromise their own souls in a desperate need just to be accepted, loved and understood. There are some very good object lessons in this novel that will hopefully cause YA readers to more closely examine their values along with the consequences of inviting others to play puppet-master with their lives.

Interview with Susan Gregg Gilmore, Author of The Improper Life of Bezillia Grove

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Susan Gregg Gilmore

Recently I had the chance to review The Improper Life of Bezillia Grove, so I was thrilled when I was presented with the opportunity to interview the author. Read on to find out more about Susan Gregg Gilmore, her thoughts on issues book clubs can discuss when they read about Bezillia, and her next project.

How did you decide to be a writer?

I was 8 years old. I had come home from school with this silly little paper I had written, and my precious mama thought it was wonderful. I remember to this day right where we were sitting when she looked at me and said, “You ought to be a writer.” I wasn’t really sure what that meant at the time, but I do remember thinking, “Yes, that’s exactly what I’ll be.”

Can you share with us a few of your all-time favorite books to read?

Thank you for not asking me to name MY ONE ALL-TIME favorite read because I find that near impossible to do. Little House in the Big Woods, The Secret Garden, To Kill A Mockingbird, Grapes of Wrath, A Woman of Independent Means, All Over but the Shoutin‘, Fair and Tender Ladies, Ellen Foster. OK, I’ll stop now. But there are more!

What do you like most about being a writer?

I love losing myself in these imaginary worlds in my head. I’m never lonely. I’m never bored. And then when it’s time and the book is released into the real world, I love meeting the people who love books as much as I do.

What do you like least?

Hmm. Well, if I’m going to be totally honest. I’d have to say I don’t really care for the mean comments posted by anonymous readers. I try not to look at those kinds of things because no one book is going to appeal to everyone. But sometimes I am shocked by the anger in people’s tones.

Tell us three interesting/quirky things readers may be interested to know about you.

I have three daughters 17, 19 and 24. And they still don’t like to read anything I write about sex—even if two characters only kiss. They’d just prefer not think of their mother knowing too much about those things.

I was never an A English student, and I’ve always been a very slow reader.

I played in the first all-girls soccer league in Nashville. We wore our field hockey skirts because we had no idea what a soccer uniform even looked like! But I went on to win Most Valuable Player in the league.

Bezillia grows up in a home and a place that has very specific expectations of her. What gives her the courage to defy those expectations?

I have to wonder if much of Bezellia’s courage is in her DNA. Sometimes there seems no other explanation. I also think some of her courage comes from her birth order, being the oldest, caring for her younger sister. I think she felt no choice but to dig down deep and defend Adelaide. Of course, I also think Maizelle and Nathaniel were there to support and encourage her in their own ways. In those final dark hours before the Civil Rights Movement really took hold, both Nathaniel and Maizelle had lived each day with a boldness of spirit that must have influenced Bezillia.

So much of the south experienced conflict and unrest during the Civil Rights movement. Why did you choose to set Bezillia’s story in Nashville?

I was raised in Nashville. And although Bezellia’s story is not my own, it is based on my memories and my perceptions of my home at the time.

When I moved back to Nashville after 30 years, I looked at house to buy that I had played in as a child. I could not afford this home but wanted to relive some childhood memories so when it was open, I seized the opportunity. When I stepped into the basement, I found six rooms, with cinder-block walls, no windows, thick doors with double locks. I knew in that moment that this was where the family’s staff had lived. That finding haunted me. I quickly realized that while I was happily playing upstairs, a very different world literally existed beneath my feet.

Seeing this space with fresh eyes and years of life experience, I knew I had to come to terms with the South I had known, that I had seen, as a child. And the way that I do that is to tell a story.

Bezillia’s parents struggle with alcoholism and mental illness in a time when not much was known about treating people with either. While things have certainly changed, do you feel there’s still a stigma that affect how people perceive someone who suffers from one of these illnesses?

I do think the perception has changed and the perceptions have improved, but I think there is still a stigma attached to those who suffer from mental illness and addiction. Most definitely.

What are some of the issues raised in the book that you feel book clubs can discuss?

Race. Racism. Interracial relationships. Social and economic inequalities. And how all of these topics may differ in different regions of our country. Mother-daughter relationships. Sibling relationships. Forgiveness. Acceptance. And at the very end of the day, how a name can affect a person’s outlook or purpose.

Can you tell us about what you’re working on next?

My third book is titled, THE FUNERAL DRESS. It is set in Tennessee’s beautiful Sequatchie Valley, at the very tip of the Appalachian Mountains. It is about two women who worked side by side at a shirt factory in the late 1950s. Both were collar makers. All day, every day, they made collars for shirts and housedresses. Both were poor and led tough lives. The older seamstress and her husband are killed in the very first chapter, and the younger seamstress chooses to make the dress her friend will be buried in. This really is the story of both women tough and how they come to terms with their hardscrabble lives.

Is there anything else you’d like to add for readers at Mother Daughter Book Club. com?

I have visited with a lot of book clubs but only once I have been fortunate to spend time with a Mother-Daughter Book Club. It really was a special afternoon watching mothers and daughters talk, agree and disagree, about a story read. I left wishing that I had done the same with my girls—so much can be discovered about one another when we journey through the pages of a book together.

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Book Review: The Magician King by Lev Grossman

The Magician King cover imageKing Quentin is bored with his life in Fillory. He’s itching for something, but he’s not sure what. When the chance comes for him to sail off to a little-heard-of island to remind its inhabitants to pay their taxes, it seems to be exactly the kind of adventure that may start him down the road to something else.

That road does indeed lead to something different and totally unexpected for Quentin and Queen Julia, who is on the trip with him. As they journey through this world and magical ones, they test their skills and their resources and question just what it is they’re looking for in the first place.

Fans of The Magicians will enjoy The Magician King, a sequel that sends Quentin off on a quest and fills in Julia’s back story. It’s not crucial for readers to have finished the first book to understand what’s going on, but I believe The Magician King can be enjoyed more as a continuing story than the beginning of one.

While this is not a page-turner, as the action unfolds at a reasonable pace, references to other popular literature filled with magic and strange creatures (like Harry Potter and The Lord of the Rings) make this series especially fun for teens. Note that foul language and sexual references can be found throughout the book. You may also be interested in watching this music video Parry Gripp created for The Magician King.

If you’d like to win a copy of The Magician King, just leave a comment here by midnight (PDT), Wednesday, September 7. Entries are limited to addresses in the U.S. or Canada. Please note: the giveaway is closed. Congratulations to Lauren on winning.

The publisher provided me with a copy of this book for review.

 

Book Review: The Magnolia League by Katie Crouch

The Magnolia League cover imageAlexandria Lee has had a rather unconventional upbringing. Raised on a commune in northern California by her mother, she has learned to work hard, live simply, and use herbs to cure her ailments. But when her mother dies in an automobile accident, Alex leaves her refuge to live with her grandmother in Savannah, Georgia.

As head of the Magnolia League, Mrs. Lee is a powerful figure in her southern town, and she wants Alex to learn proper manners and take her place as a member of the league. She’s even appointed to other debutantes to coach Alex along. But Alex notices that something isn’t quite right about her new friends. They’re too pretty, very wealthy and seem to hold an unusual power over everyone who knows them.

Soon Alex finds herself rejecting the simple life she lived before in favor of the glamour of being in the Magnolia League. But there’s a dark secret behind the league’s power, and once Alex discovers it, she’s not sure whether she should fulfill her grandmother’s wishes or reject everything she’s come to know since her mother’s death.

The Magnolia League by Katie Crouch paints a picture of a steamy Southern town draped in mystery the way its oak trees are draped in Spanish moss. The secrets go back to the days of slavery and involve Hoodoo rituals and old alliances between diverse groups. While I felt the ending was a bit rushed and changes in Alex didn’t always fit her character, I also believe The Magnolia League is a promising start to a new series that should be fun to follow.

The publisher provided me with a copy of this book for review.

 

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