How to Be a Good Book Club Member

When book club members get together you can usually count on good fun, good company and great socializing. What’s not to like? But with all the fun you have at meetings, it may be easy to forget that you need to exert a little effort too if you want to have good discussions.

You may balk at the idea that book club has to be work at all. Sometimes what you’re looking for after a long day at work or with the kids is just to escape. The last thing you may want is another obligation hanging over your head.

Yet without a good discussion, book club is just another social event. And while that may be okay for a meeting or two, over the long term you and other members may find yourselves dissatisfied without good book talk to anchor your time together.

The good news is that spending a little effort to be a good book club member doesn’t have to take a lot of time or energy. Here are a few tips you may want to keep in mind whether you’re attending a book club meeting or hosting one.

  1. Come prepared to talk about the book. Think about what you liked or disliked about it, and point to specific examples. You can save time by marking passages with sticky notes as you read so you don’t have to go back and look for examples after you’re done.
  2. Give your full attention to other members when they talk, and don’t start a separate conversation with the person sitting next to you.
  3. Save unrelated personal stories for social time leading up to or after book discussion.
  4. When it’s your turn to choose the book, be ready to recommend a title. That way everyone can get started reading soon after the meeting if they’d like.
  5. When you host book club, have a set of questions ready to keep conversation going. Otherwise it may be easy for discussion to get off track.
  6. Be ready with dates in mind that work for your next meeting., and offer to help clean up before you go.

Discussion Questions for A Match Made in High School by Kristin Walker

My mother-daughter book club met a couple of days ago to discuss A Match Made in High ScA Match Made in High School imagehool by Kristin Walker. (See my previous review.) We had a lively discussion about everything from friends and social circles, to judging people based on superficial assessments, to cheerleading, to marriage, to pranking and more. We kept our discussion on track with a list of questions provided by the author. You may benefit from using the questions too. Just keep in mind that some of the questions reveal what happens in the book, so you may not want to look them over until you finish reading the book.

A Match Made in High School Discussion Questions

1. One of the themes I tried to emphasize was the idea that people are more than what they seem on the surface, more than their stereotype or the label we’ve given them. Which characters show this? What about the adult characters?

2. Marriage is such a hot topic these days. Many people seem to draw specific boundaries around which kind of relationships qualify as marriage and which don’t. I tried to illustrate some of the various forms that relationships and marriage can take. Can you identify them? Do you feel they fit the criteria for marriage? What about the marriages that failed?

3. Drawing forward from the previous question, what about gay marriage? I tried very hard to address the topic with the subplot of Uncle Tommy, as well as with the POMME mothers. In what ways does Uncle Tommy’s relationship mirror or differ from other relationships in the book?

4. I’ve caught some flack for deviating from the normal formula for a romance novel by not having Fiona end up with Todd. My intent was to prove that the quiet, overweight loner can get the girl. Did you like that? Or did it make you mad that Fiona and Todd never got together?

5. Many people have found Fiona to be unlikable at the beginning, but I had to make her that way in order to show her growth and change over the course of the book. In what ways did she change? Where do you think the turning point was?

6. How did you feel about the mother-daughter relationship between Fiona and her mother, Vivian? In what ways did they work toward the same goal?

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Interview with Emily Whitman, Author of Wildwing

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Emily Whitman

Emily Whitman is a Portland author whose latest book is Wildwing (see review). She’s also the author of Radiant Darkness. Here she shares thoughts about writing and Wildwing with readers at Mother Daughter Book Club.com. You may want to check out the question I ask her about whether it’s easier for someone who lived a century ago to adjust to life in the middle ages than it would be for someone today. She turns the question around and wants to know what readers think. Comment here if you have any thoughts about that.

MDBC: Tell us a little bit about what led you to being a writer?

EW: Books and the joy of words were everywhere in my house. I loved writing poems and making things up. If you could get a job rhyming, I’d be at the top of the ladder! But at some point in college I decided I was never going to be a “great writer,” so I just stopped. Stupid! Don’t do this! Many years later, when I was reading to my own children, the need to write reawakened in me. I started to see that writing wasn’t about a brilliant piece appearing ready-made out of the blue, but about finding my own voice and staying at it. I taped two sayings to my kitchen cabinet: “Your IQ is not as important as your I WILL,” and “The best is the enemy of the good.” In other words, don’t let the search for perfection get in the way of your writing—just write!

I joined a group of poets and got used to commenting on other people’s work and hearing their ideas on mine. That was a step in bravery. Then I started writing passages for educational publishers. That was another step. And then finally realizing the story I wanted to tell had to be a novel, and deciding I’d give it a whirl—that was a huge step. I don’t think I could have done any of it if I hadn’t learned to share my work in that poetry group. I still have to get brave every time I put something out into the world, and each time I’m surprised anew how great the rewards are.

MDBC: Addy strains against the social position she is born into. Did she have many options to change that position in the early 1900s when she was born?

EW: No. That’s one reason I set that part of the story in 1913. The social class you were born into is where you were expected to stay. Things were better than they had been—Addy could go to school—but her choices when she left school were few. Most women who worked were in domestic service, with almost no say about hours, wages, or conditions. Things changed with World War I. With so many men off to war, women had new options, working in factories, taking jobs that had been men’s. Now that maids were in short supply, they could demand better conditions. Education, opportunities for work—those are things that have made a difference in people’s choices since then.

MDBC: What sparked your interest in time travel?

 

EW: When I was in high school, there was a trail near my house that led to a path in the mountains. I used to walk along that trail and imagine that it was the 1800s. I’d avoid looking at my sneakers and blue jeans so I could pretend I was dressed in a gingham dress. I already had the long braids! After a while I started to invent the rules for a kind of time travel summer camp, where I’d get to live with a family in the past. I still think that’s a great idea. In college I read lots of 19th century novels and studied history, and those were also ways of immersing myself in another time. I like finding connections, the ways we’re the same in spite of our surroundings. And I like the shock of the unexpected, having to leave your preconceptions behind. Falling into the world of a book is certainly a form of time travel. So is dreaming, don’t you think?

MDBC: How did you decide to have Addy go back to the 1200s?

EW: It wasn’t so much a decision as the way the story unfolded in my head. Now, looking back, I can say it’s because she ran away hoping for some kind of fairy tale of a better life, and a turreted castle is the perfect fairy tale setting. And she gets to play the part of the princess!

And then there’s the question of how people label us, the boxes they put us in, and whether we can be strong enough to face that and find a way to live as our fullest selves. In 1913, Addy’s at the bottom of the social ladder, crushed beneath the scorn of the other girls, with no way up or out. She arrives in 1240, a world that’s even more stratified than the one she left. But she figures that’s fine as long as she’s on the top, right? Right? Working with falcons, Addy starts to think about kinds of freedom. Can you be with other people, and still be free? Still think for yourself? Still decide for yourself who you are and what kind of choices you have?

MDBC: If you could choose a time to go back to, when would it be?

EW: This changes for me every time I’m asked! Ancient Greece (though that would be better if I were a man). Renaissance Venice. Today I’m tempted by the artistic world in Paris at the turn of the century, in Montmartre. Or maybe I’ll drop in on the 1920s, dance to some jazz, bob my hair. I look really good in 1920s hats.

MDBC: It’s seems easy for many of us to romanticize life in the past. Why do you think that may be?

EW: We get to choose which parts we look at, for one thing! In my story, Addy goes off to live in a castle. What if she ended up in a peasant’s household, without enough to eat, and constant, backbreaking physical labor? Maybe then she’d look back on her old life longingly.  Even in that castle, things weren’t all silk and furs. When Addy comes into the Great Hall, the old rushes are being swept out. What I didn’t say is they needed to be replaced because they were full of old bits of food and dog droppings. People had bad teeth and terrible breath. But putting all that in would make it a different kind of book than the one I wanted to write.

MDBC: Do you think it was easier for Addy, a child of the early 1900s, to adapt to life in the Middle Ages than it would be for a child of today?

EW: As I look at this question, Cindy, I find myself wanting to know what your readers have to say! Can we ask them? I find myself asking more questions. Do we expect to have more options in our lives, and would that make it harder for us? Are we as used to physical labor as people were in 1913? What about our assumptions in regard to faith and the role of the church? Have we grown so used to technology, it would be harder for us to live without it? (How about it readers? What do you think? Comment here to let us know.)

MDBC: What do you admire most about Addy?

 

EW: I like that she’s feisty and doesn’t give up. She doesn’t crumble under the scorn that’s heaped on her, or settle for having a life of being less than she knows she can be. I like that she’s brave and willing to take risks. And then I like that she grows enough to realize sometimes you have to sacrifice your own desires for what you believe in. I LOVE the part at the end where she’s finally able to face Caroline.

MDBC: Is there anything else you’d like to say to readers at Mother Daughter Book Club.com?

EW: If you’d like to see some discussion questions for Wildwing, you’ll find them here at Novelnovice.com (and soon I’ll be putting them on my website, www.emilywhitman.com). I’d love to hear what other questions or topics spark great discussions for your club—please email me and let me know. Keep reading, talking about books, and sharing what you think!

Book Review: Wildwing by Emily Whitman

Addy chafes against the strict expectations a girl of her position has in society. She attends school with girls who are much wealthier, but she is expected to acquiesce always to what they want. Her attitude often lands her in trouble.

When Addy’s mother decides its in Addy’s best interest to quit school and start working as a housekeeper, she rebels against that, too, but she has no choice other than to go along. So she’s surprised to find that her new employer, an older man who lost his wife to illness and whose only son disappeared years ago, treats her as an equal. He encourages her to read, and they talk about important topics

Then Addy discovers a time machine in a closed-up room. It transports her back to the early Middle Ages, a time when the ruined castle of her hometown was still intact and vibrant. There she is mistaken for a grand lady, and she decides to play the part to gain all she has ever dreamed of having. Can she get away with the deception? More importantly, does she truly want to?

Wildwing by Emily Whitman is historical fiction on a grand scale, with time-travel, romance, adventure and intrigue. Addy is not always an easy character to like. She is sometimes focused on material possessions and a hunger for respect at the cost of all else. But she grows as the story moves along and she begins to see what truly matters to her.

I recommend Wildwing for mother-daughter book clubs with girls aged 12 and up. Issues to discuss include the ramifications of class in society, roles for women at different times in history, time travel and more. The author has a great list of discussion questions that can also guide a book club conversation.

Sage Cohen Offers Tips for the Productive Writer

Today’s guest post is from Sage Cohen, whose book, The Productive Writer, offers advice for writers of all types to help them get more out of their  writing. Here, Cohen shares one of her tips from the book.

The Productive Writer imagePractice Deliberately (And Hit Your Target)

A guest post by author Sage Cohen

“The best people in any field are those who devote the most hours to what the researchers call ‘deliberate practice.’ It’s activity that’s explicitly intended to improve performance, that reaches for objectives just beyond one’s level of competence, provides feedback on results and involves high levels of repetition.

For example: Simply hitting a bucket of balls is not deliberate practice, which is why most golfers don’t get better. Hitting an eight-iron three hundred times with a goal of leaving the ball within 20 feet of the pin 80 percent of the time, continually observing results and making appropriate adjustments, and doing that for hours every day—that’s deliberate practice.”—Geoffrey Colvin, senior editor-at-large, Fortune Magazine

Have you ever gotten halfway through a piece of writing and found yourself floundering about what you were actually trying to accomplish in the first place? This is where the concept of deliberate practice comes in. When you set your sights on specific goals for a piece of writing, then you’ll know exactly how close you come to achieving your goal.

Try writing out as many of these details at the top of your piece, or on a Post-It note that you attach to your computer screen or your working file folder. For example, I wrote this at the top of a recent piece I’d been contracted to write:

  • Target word count: 1,500
  • To appear in: Poet’s Market 2012
  • Audience: Aspiring poets with varying levels of publishing experience
  • Topic: Why Poets Need Platforms and How to Create One

I challenge you to name and claim the key objectives of every piece of writing, even a blog post, short story, essay, or poem, regardless of whether you’ve been hired to write it or if you ever intend to share it. Here are a few tips to get you started:

1. Choose a listener

When you know the audience you are writing for, you can start to imagine their needs, questions, objections, and level of interest. The simplest way to define this audience is by choosing a single person who is representative of this group, and write it “for them.” Maybe this person can even be available to read and give feedback about your work, to help you learn if it was received as you intended.

2. Name the objective of what you are writing

If you are writing on assignment or for a client, this is where you’d articulate exactly what goals you’ve been hired to accomplish. If you are writing something for a themed contest or publication, define the topic or parameters within which you must perform. And if you are writing creative nonfiction, poetry, or fiction that is not driven by particular submission requirements, try setting your own standard for what you expect this piece to do/be/accomplish and then observe if this makes a difference in your writing and revising experience.

3. Write! You know everything you need to know about this, already! [This is the sound of me shaking my pom-poms.]

4. Revise!

Anyone who’s ever spent years revising a single piece of writing knows all too well what hitting an eight-iron three hundred times might be like. Now, get out there and start swinging.

5. Evaluate whether you have achieved your objective

When your piece feels finished, revisit the goals articulated in numbers one and two, and see how your writing measures up. If there are discrepancies, return to number four, and then repeat. If you didn’t hit the mark the first time, don’t worry. Remember, this is all practice. And the only way we improve is through repetition. Practice shapes us, so we can most effectively give shape to our writing.

[Excerpted from The Productive Writer by Sage Cohen]

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About Sage Cohen

Sage Cohen is the author of The Productive Writer (just released from Writer’s Digest Books); Writing the Life Poetic and the poetry collection Like the Heart, the World. She blogs about all that is possible in the writing life at pathofpossibility.com, where you can: Download a FREE “Productivity Power Tools” workbook companion to The Productive Writer. Get the FREE, 10-week email series, “10 Ways to Boost Writing Productivity” when you sign up to receive email updates. Sign up for the FREE, Writing the Life Poetic e-zine. Plus, check out the events page for the latest free teleclasses, scholarships and more.

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Book Review: Cleopatra Rules by Vicky Shecter

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Cleopatra Rules! The Amazing Life of the Original Teen Queen by Vicky Alvear Shecter is sure to be a hit with anyone who is interested in learning more about the real story of Cleopatra, her life, and the times she lived in. This nonfiction book combines modern references with ancient facts while questioning the motives of the Roman historians who wrote much of what has come down through history of this most famous Queen of Egypt..

The book starts by asking readers three questions: Was the last queen of Egypt an evil, gorgeous woman dripping with jewels? A power-hungry temptress trying to rule the world? A pharaoh with a small snake problem? How about none of the above?

From there it goes into each phase of Cleopatra’s life, beginning when she was a child and going through her life with Julius Caesar and Marc Antony until her death. Each chapter is full of interesting facts that are illustrated with photos of ancient artwork, maps, drawings and more. The chapters are short and read quickly, but they are chock-full of information.

The tone is fun and irreverent throughout, but there’s no doubt the facts are accurate. To back up her text, Shecter has extensive endnotes on each chapter, a timeline of events, a glossary, and a bibliography of sources. Cleopatra Rules! should be a great way to bring history to life for middle-grade readers.

Book Review: Dogsled Dreams by Terry Lynn Johnson

Dogsled Dreams imageRebecca loves nothing more than to be out on the trail with her huskies on a sled. She dreams of leading a team in a race one day, and when her change comes, she really wants to prove to her dad that even though she’s only twelve, she can do it.

Dogsled Dreams by Terry Lynn Johnson is a fascinating look at the life of a musher. Rebecca puts in a lot of time with her dogs, feeding them, cleaning up after them and making sure they’re safe for the night. She also has to learn about dangers on the trail, like running in extreme cold and white-out conditions, and encountering wild animals on the trail. She knows that her dogs have to trust her, and she has to trust them, if they want to stay safe on a run.

Dogsled Dreams is a great book for mother-daughter book clubs with girls aged 9 to 12. Becca is confident, and she’s also willing to put in a lot of work to get what she wants. The dogsledding details are interesting, and they carry the story along without bogging it down. Moms and daughters can also talk about taking on responsibility and setting goals to work towards a dream.

The author has a great teacher’s guide that can be downloaded from her website. The guide can help book club members generate discussion questions. You’ll also a find a few fun facts about dogsledding, more information about the author and lots of other interesting tidbits when you visit: terrylynnjohnson.com.

Book Review: Far Above Rubies by Cynthia Polansky

Far Above Rubies imageWhen Sofie Mecklenberg married Jan Rijnfeld in Amsterdam in 1937 she knew she was becoming stepmother to six daughters. The oldest was 21 and about to be married herself, the youngest was 11. Sophie knew she would have to work hard to be their friend and a stand-in for their mother who had died five years before. She didn’t know her commitment would take her to a Nazi work camp and then Auschwitz.

Far Above Rubies by Cynthia Polansky is historical fiction that is based on the true story of a woman who volunteered to accompany her six stepdaughters when they were called out of Amsterdam and sent to a work camp. Vowing to her husband she would do all she could to keep them safe, she packed her suitcase and headed to the train station with them. She had no way of knowing what awaited them once they left home.

Sofie’s unfailing strength of spirit kept her going until the Russians liberated Auschwitz and during the hardships after the war. While Sofie’s circumstances are true, the story has been fictionalized to allow us a glimpse of what every one of the real people may have been thinking as the story unfolds.

The result is a cross between documentary and fiction that helps the reader get through the worst passages about Nazi atrocities. The title is based on a quote from proverbs: “A woman of valor who can find? For her price is far above rubies.” Polansky has insured that Sofie’s story of sacrifice and selflessness in the face of inhuman acts will not be forgotten. Mother-daughter book clubs with girls aged 15 and up will be able to explore how Nazi occupation affected Amsterdam, the realities of life in a concentration camp and how those incarcerated often kept their humanity by small acts of kindness.

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