Mother-daughter Weekend Getaway

Last weekend most of our mother-daughter book club members were able to get away for 24 hours together. As soon as we met at The Oregon Gardens Resort, which is in a huge botanical garden not far from Portland where we live, we were relaxed and happy to be together. The package we bought included dinner Friday night, breakfast Saturday morning, entry into the gardens, massages, money to spend on spa products and as much pool time as we wanted. We didn’t have to worry about doing anything but wandering around and talking to each other. Here’s a photo from dinner:

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Emily and Madeleine

Since the girls started college, we don’t get many opportunities to get together any more, so this weekend was a treat. It worked out so the girls could share one room and the moms the other, and I know we each enjoyed time with our own groups as well as time for us all to be together. By the time we headed home Saturday afternoon it felt as though we had been away much longer than we had. It was a great way for us all to reconnect.

Book Review: Blue Plate Special by Michelle D. Kwasney

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Blue Plate Special by Michelle D. Kwasney is at its heart a story of mothers and daughters. In this case, there are three generations of mothers and daughters who all make mistakes but ultimately struggle to do the best they can.

Each of the storytellers, Madeline, Desiree and Ariel has a distinct voice. Madeline is super-responsible, and she takes care of her alcoholic mother. But she’s extremely overweight, and she fights to stay above water in a vast sea of loneliness. Desiree is happy with her school and social life, but at home her mother is too depressed to pay much attention to her. Desiree can’t rely on her mother to protect her. Ariel’s got a good relationship with her mother, but she’s in danger of falling under the control of a boy who wants to monopolize every minute of her time for himself.

Each story is told from the point of view of the girls when they were 16, and seeing the continuity between generations is both painful and hopeful. Can these women and girls escape their pasts and their present circumstances and find a way to be stronger and support each other?

Blue Plate Special should provide great discussions for mother-daughter book clubs with girls aged 14 and older. Issues to talk about include finding a feeling of self-worth, what is the difference between being loved and being controlled by someone, and overcoming obstacles to provide a safe, loving environment for your children. This book gets stronger as it goes along. The stories are very simple, but very powerful, I highly recommend it.

Check the author’s website, http://www.michelledkwasney.com/, to read the first three chapters, which introduce each of the three characters, or listen to an audio excerpt. The downloadable discussion guide also has great questions, including this one that would be interesting in a mother-daughter book club:

“It’s hard for us to imagine what our mothers and grandmothers were like as teenagers. If you had the chance to travel back in time and meet your mom or grandma when they were your age, would you do it? What questions would you ask them?”

Book Review: The Lonely Tree by Yael Politis

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Tonia is single-minded in her desire to escape the hard life and insecurity on a kibbutz in Israel for the easy life she imagines waits for her in the United States. She even keeps a magazine photo of her ideal American home tacked up to her wall to remind herself of her dream.

Tonia’s parents had left their native Poland for Palestine in 1934 with their own dream of building a Jewish homeland. For years the family lived in cramped quarters with relatives while the dad, Joseph, worked to build a place they could all live together. Tonia’s brother and sister shared their parents’ dream, even as Tonia rejected it. But dark-eyed, dark-skinned Amos Amrani just may change Tonia’s mind about where she belongs.

The Lonely Tree by Yael Politis is a sweeping tale set against the Jewsish settlement of Palestine and the establishment of a Jewish state. The settlers experience deprivation, are subject to attack, and find out about loved ones left behind to perish during the Holocaust.

Tonia is stubborn like her father, and she often butts heads with him. But only she can decide if she truly wants to follow her own ideal of a safe life in America or fight for the Israeli state her parents and so many of her friends believe in. This book is a great one for mother-daughter book clubs with girls aged 15 and older to choose, particularly if they are interested in historical fiction and more specifically the history of the modern state of Israel.

Discussion topics include developing a cultural identity, living with the threat of attack, finding out what’s most important in your life, and moral obligations to the ones we love.

Week Eight of the Summer Blast Giveaway—Win Tortilla Sun

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If you’ve read my recent reviews, you’ll know I’m quite taken with Tortilla Sun, a new book by Jennifer Cervantes. It’s a great book for middle grade readers and their moms, and you can even learn how to make tortillas, thanks to a recipe at the back of the book and a helpful video with the author and her daughters. So I’m making Tortilla Sun this week’s book to give away. Read my review, and look for the other resources listed at the bottom to watch the video, read the first chapter or download discussion questions.

Comment on this post by midnight (PDT), Friday, July 30 and be entered to win your copy.

Hazardous Players Take Listeners on Adventure in Udenland

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While most of the reading we do in our family is the turning the page kind, we occasionally like to listen to stories as well. Sometimes we listen in our car while driving to a destination far away. Sometimes we gather in our family room. It’s fun to laugh together at funny lines and discuss what we heard afterward. So I’m happy to discover a new series of audio stories available on the Web from the Hazardous Players. The stories are based on the adventures of Sirs Cottington and Bratwurst in the magical kingdom of Udenland.

Here’s a little more information about the episodes from the Hazardous Players’ website:

“The Hazardous Players will introduce you to some of the eccentric inhabitants of Udenland society, who our two moderately brave and occasionally noble knights often encounter on their continuing travels. Plus we will take you to the far corners of Udenland: deep in the Ragstag Mountains, across the Tempest Sea, to new and distant lands where undiscovered and extraordinary creatures can be found.  Creatures that even the extensive Henchwoods Guide to Magical Creatures has not catalogued.”

I’ve listened to a few of the episodes now, and I found them to be well produced, highly imaginative and funny. They’re appropriate for younger kids, even though they won’t get all the humor. This nuanced storytelling is what helps the episodes appeal to adults as well as children.

To find out more, check out the Hazardous Players’ website. You can listen to past episodes by accessing the archives, and you can sign up to receive notices when new episodes are uploaded. You can also click on pages that will show you drawings of all the characters and call up a guide to the magical creatures talked about in Udenland.

If you’d like to know more about this creative group and its origins, here’s an excellent interview at the young adult book site, Finding Neverland.

Author Katie Williams Talks About Parents in Young Adult Novels

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Katie Williams, author of The Space Between Trees

Katie Williams is the author of The Space Between Trees, a new book for young adult audiences that I highly recommend for mother-daughter book clubs with girls aged 14 and up. (See my review.) In her novel, Evie and her mother don’t often see eye-to-eye, and they seem to have forgotten how to communicate with each other, if they ever knew. Here, Williams gives her take on parents in young adult fiction, and why they are often portrayed as absent in some way.

Hello, mothers, daughters, readers all!

This is Katie Williams stopping in at the Mother Daughter Book Club as part of my blog tour to spread word about my debut novel, The Space Between Trees. The Space Between Trees follows observant loner Evie who wishes her life were as interesting as the lies she tells the shy girls at her high school. But when Evie stumbles on the discovery of her childhood friend’s body, her exaggerations snare her in the aftermath of a murder, binding her to the dead girls’ loved ones and pulling her closer to difficult truths about the world and herself.

Since I’m here visiting the Mother Daughter Book Club, I thought it’d be interesting to talk about how YA books characterize parents. I’m sure you’ve noticed that all too often the parents don’t come off very well. When they aren’t workaholics, they’re abusive; when they aren’t abusive, they’re hopelessly clueless; when they aren’t absent or violent or ignorant, they’re probably secretly evil so watch out! In fact, sometimes it seems that the only good YA parents are the dead ones, no more than kindly memories called up by the plucky orphan child.

So why do YA authors write such abominable parents? Were we all raised by villains? Well, perhaps a sad few of us were, but I’d imagine that most of us had caring parents. I know I did. So what gives? Well, the story gives. Or rather, the story demands.

The story demands complicated characters, and while some of the more negative fictional parents are hardly nuanced, many of the checked-out or driven parents are attempts by the author to build layered characters with their own blindspots, fears, and desires. Take, for instance, Laurie Halse Anderson’s perfectionist mother in Wintergirls or even Philip Pullman’s battling mother and father in The Golden Compass. (Okay, I wouldn’t hire that last duo to babysit!)

The YA story also demands that the protagonist strike out on her own. YA stories are, most often, stories of growing up. (As are most adult stories, come to think of it.) Sometimes this self-sufficiency can be achieved while still under the parents’ roof. Other times, the striking out is literal, and the protagonist must go on a physical journey to mirror her developmental journey. This is a classic YA storytelling trick, especially frequent in adventure or fantasy stories, from The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe to Graceling.

Finally, the YA story demands that it be on the young person’s side. Yes, this is unfair, but so are teenagers. Hey, so are we all when it comes to our own biased worldviews! As my own patient mother (and I’m sure many of you readers) can attest, it’s natural for a teenage girl to create distance from her parents, in order to work out her own identity. And if you aren’t creating this distance with a talking animal companion and the wide road ahead, you might be creating it with emotion and attitude. If fictional parents are shown to be clueless, ridiculous, or unfair, it might be because the protagonist needs to see them this way in order to see herself as something different.

It strikes me that this might be an apology in guest-post form. For much of The Space Between Trees, my protagonist, Evie, sees her mother as shallow, silly, and incapable of understanding her. And though the mother-daughter relationship isn’t at the center of my novel, it was important to me that the connection between these two characters feel authentic and that it evolve. By the end of the novel, Evie has begun to realize that no matter their foibles or faults, she and her mother love each other, and that that is worth quite a lot.

You can read more about The Space Between Trees, including the first chapter, at my website, www.katiewilliamsbooks.com.

Book Review: The Space Between Trees by Katie Williams

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Evie spends a lot of her time alone, and for the most part she likes it that way. She’s worlds apart from her mother, who seems obsessed with looking perfect all the time. At lunch in school she sits with a group she calls The Whisperers, because they talk quietly to one another. But at least they accept her presence at their table, and they like to hear stories about Jonah. Jonah combs the woods behind a high-end neighborhood every week to rid it of dead animals while Evie delivers newspapers there. She longs for him to notice her.

Then comes the Sunday that Jonah finds the body of Evie’s one-time friend as he makes his regular rounds. Evie can’t get the murder out of her mind, and she finds herself lying to make her relationship with the dead girl, Elizabeth, closer than it was. She’s drawn into a friendship with Elizabeth’s dad and her real best friend, Hadley.

The girls work to solve the crime together, but actions quickly escalate out of their control.

The Space Between Trees by Katie Williams grabs you and pulls you into the story with the first words and doesn’t turn you loose until the last sentence. It highlights real dangers when teens take risks, and also shows how they can sometimes fall into magical thinking that heightens and exaggerates their fears.

There are many issues for moms and daughters to talk about: making decisions about who to trust, keeping lines of communication open between moms and teen daughters, teens trying out new experiences just to see what they are like, and more. The Space Between Trees is wonderfully creepy, and I recommend reading it in the light of day or you may just find yourself jumping at every little sound in the dark. I highly recommend it for mother-daughter book clubs with girls aged 14 and up.

Week Seven of the Summer Blast Giveaway—Win The Real Real

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We’re midway through Mother-Daughter Book Club.com’s Summer Blast Giveaway. This week I’m offering a copy of The Real Real by Emma McLaughlin and Nicola Kraus. Comment by midnight (PDT) on Friday, July 23 to be entered into the drawing. (Giveaway closed to new entries. Congratulations to Ellen on winning a copy.) Here’s my review:

Jesse is a senior at a high school in the Hamptons where she sees lots of celebrities and other wealthy people drop in for vacation. Life for most of the locals is anything but glamorous, that is until TV network XTV decides to train its cameras on the students in Jesse’s high school. What they want is real teens, doing real things in their real lives. Everyone at the school tries out, but Jesse is sure that she won’t be among the chosen ones.

When the line-up is announced, there’s no surprise that the school’s hottest teens made the list—Nico, Jase, Rick and Melanie—but Jess is surprised to find that she’s been picked too. While none of Jesse’s friends made the list, she’s excited that the guy she has a crush on, Drew, did.

While having the cameras film her every move is kind of a pain, it’s also kind of glamorous and at first everything goes well. But when real teens doing real things in real life proves to be really boring, the producers at XTV decide to shake things up by orchestrating real drama. The ensuing events may make for interesting television, but the effect they have on Jesse and the other stars of the show are anything but expected.

Emma McLaughlin and Nicola Kraus, the bestselling authors of The Nanny Diaries, have written a book that should resonate with reality TV viewers, and it feels as though we really are behind the scenes of a reality TV show. The teens in The Real Real aren’t perfect, in fact it can be frustrating to watch as some of them make some pretty big mistakes. But then you realize just how much the adults in the equation fail them and contribute to the mistakes in so many ways. Recommended for mother-daughter book clubs with girls 15 and up.

Don’t forget to add a comment to this post by midnight (PDT), Friday, July 23 and you could win.

More News Linking Book Ownership and Literacy

A couple of days ago I talked about an article David Brooks wrote about kids being given books to read during the summer and how it helped their overall performance in school. I’ve also run across another article written by Laura Miller for Salon.com linking books and literacy.

Here’s an excerpt:

“A study recently published in the journal Research in Social Stratification and Mobility found that just having books around the house (the more, the better) is correlated with how many years of schooling a child will complete. The study (authored by M.D.R. Evans, Jonathan Kelley, Joanna Sikorac and Donald J. Treimand) looked at samples from 27 nations, and according to its abstract, found that growing up in a household with 500 or more books is “as great an advantage as having university-educated rather than unschooled parents, and twice the advantage of having a professional rather than an unskilled father.” Children with as few as 25 books in the family household completed on average two more years of schooling than children raised in homes without any books.”

The whole article can be accessed here: http://www.salon.com/books/laura_miller/2010/06/02/summer_book_giveaway.

For anyone who owns books or feels comfortable going into bookstores and libraries, it may be difficult to imagine living in a home without books. If you’d like to support organizations that can help put more books in more hands, the Campaign for Literacy page at Bookbundlz.com is a great place to find links to many of these types of organizations.

Book Review: A Taste for Rabbit by Linda Zuckerman

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Harry is a fox who lives in Foxboro during a time of deprivation. Winter has been harsh, and food is scarce. His brother, Isaac, leads the government, and while the two haven’t gotten along since childhood, Isaac is entrusting Harry with the task of finding an old fortress reputedly full of rabbits.

Quentin is a rabbit who lives in the fortress. Strange disappearances have been occurring in his world, and his government is enacting strict laws to enforce security. When he runs into a childhood nemesis who is now his superior on guard duty, Quentin knows he must find a way to escape.

Harry and Quentin are both animals working to solve a mystery and fight for their survival. Each much discover what he believes in and define why he believes himself to be moral.

A Taste for Rabbit by Linda Zuckerman has many moral issues to ponder. What are you willing to do if you’re hungry or need to feed a family? When is it okay to kill other animals for food? How can you determine who to trust? Mother-daughter book clubs with girls aged 14 and up should find a lot to talk about.